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My husband died recently, suddenly, we had been together 9 years. The Step-daughter from a previous marriage attended the service. Knowing how loving he has been with my daughter and that he walked her down the aisle at her wedding, I would like to write something comforting to this young woman. Few at the service were aware of the past connection therefore she was not awarded the comfort that came to me, my daughter, or his blood children.
	So sorry for your loss. You could write something like: Mary your presence at "John's" memorial services was greatly appreciated. He meant so much to all of us and had a special part in each of our lives. We shall always keep him with us by recalling the special ways he was there for us.
We recently lost our unborn child at just 17 weeks. I work for a large company and they sent flowers to my home. I would like some help with the wording of the thank-you note.
	So sorry for your loss. I would suggest you write something like: We truly appreciate your kindness during this most difficult time in our lives. Our little angel is safe and happy in heaven. Thank you for being so thoughtful.
Hi, 10 years ago I lost my husband, (I'm)was a mother of 3) and I was given a book that I think was called "BEGINNINGS, A BOOK FOR WIDOWS" since then I lent it to a friend that was in the same situation. Just recently I lost a family member and I think his widow (a mother of 2) would enjoy the book like I did. Could you please let me know who wrote this book or where I could possibly get a copy of it. Thanking you in advance. Shari
	This title was written by Betty Jane Wylie. I believe you can still get it at www.amazon.com
How can I ease the pain inside my heart for passing of my beloved son May 10, 2003?
	Dear Virginia, I am so sorry for your loss. When a loved one leaves this world it is never easy. It is especially hard for a mother to lose a child. I find in order to deal with the passing of a loved one it is best to celebrate their life. Try not to think of the passing but of all the joys and fond memories you have of your son's life. You may even want to create a picture collage and display it. When you feel up to it, you may want to share some of your time as a volunteer in a school, church or youth group to reach out to other kids and add to their life. I do know that this is not a healthy situation if your son passed in 2003 and you are not able to accept it. He is at peace and enjoying the after life. Perhaps you could seek some guidance and counseling through a support group. You know it is always less difficult to accept something when you realize you are not alone and others have traveled this path. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that you gain the strength to accept God's will.
My mother passed away just over a month ago unexpectedly. I would like to send out thank you cards to my friends for Mass Cards they sent and also for donations some of them have made to a charity in my mother's name. Could you please help with the wording for the Mass cards and also for the donations? Thank you!
	I am sorry for your loss. You could write: Thank you for remembering my mother. Your kindness has helped me bear my terrible loss.
My mother has just died this week after being told only a month ago she had cancer. My work have been very good to me giving me whatever time I needed off to spend precious time and care for my mum in her last few week. They kept me on full pay and have been so supportive through these difficult times. I want to send a thankyou note but don't know how to word it. Can you help please?
	I am so sorry for your loss. You could write something like: I would like to express my heartfelt thanks for your kindness. You have been there for me during a most difficult time in my life. Your continued support and understanding is so appreciated. Thank you for being a part of my life.
My Father passed away in March. Do we send thank you cards to his brother and sister for flowers and mass cards? Do we also send them to nieces and nephews for flowers?
	Sorry for your loss. I would suggest you send a remembrance card. They are usually printed by the funeral home and they contain the information about the deceased. If you have a close relationship with your paternal relatives you may want to send a thank you that says: Thank you for being here for my support. Dad will remain in all of our hearts.
My husband's ex wife sent m a very simple note of sympathy on my mother's passing. Our relationship is courteous but a strained...how should I respond in my thank you card?
	Sorry about your loss. You should handle this as you would any person sending a sympathy note. Did you have note cards from the undertaker? Merely send one of these cards. Honestly there is no need to respond to a sympathy card. If you have cards with a remembrance holy card from the undertaker feel free to send one. If not, accept the note and move on.
My sister just passed away after a lengthly illness. She lives across country from me and we have only been in touch via cards on holidays and birthdays. Should I send a sympathy card to her children? Any suggestions for wording?
	Sorry for your loss. I believe that you need some closure on this passing. While there is "no need" to send a note you can let her children know how you felt. "This is a sad time for all of us. We have lost a good friend. My heart shares your pain. Even though, Jane has passed on to another realm, we must keep her alive in our hearts and present in our lives by our memories of her.
My mother in law just passed away on March 21 2007. My friends at work got flowers and cards for the funeral. I don't know how to word a thank you card.
	So sorry for your loss. You could respond: Thank you for your thoughtfulness. Your generosity and support is greatly appreciated.

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